TW: Suicide

I’m on a mission to help people develop self-awareness without needing 10,000 hours of meditation.

I care about this because inner conflict becomes outer conflict. What we refuse to face in ourselves does not disappear. It leaks into our relationships, our choices, and the way we move through the world. I want to reduce suffering, polarisation, and war within and without, while having fun and laughing along the way.

An older version of me hated life and hated himself. I projected that hatred onto the people closest to me and the people furthest from me. After a breakup, my ex left me with the parting words, “you need to learn to look after yourself.” At that point, I felt like I had two options: learn how to do that, or end my life.

Not long after, I found Jungian shadow work. It gave me direction. More than 6 years later, I barely recognise who I was back then.

What I’ve learned is that the most terrifying parts of us are often not the worst of us, but the best of us - the parts we buried, judged, or never knew how to hold. This work has taught me how to meet all of it more honestly, and I want to help others do the same.

Through exploring my own shadow, I’ve developed a strong intuition for the parts of people’s stories that often get missed. I tend to find the root of the problem quickly, rather than circling around symptoms or reaching for temporary distractions. Over time, I’ve refined this work into something simple, direct, and profound. Once you see it, you cannot really unsee it.

I offer one-on-one sessions and sessions for two, whether that’s couples, friends, or two people who want to do this work side by side. I often encourage people to bring a homework buddy, because doing this work with someone else can bring more honesty, more accountability, and a lot more integration. It’s like having a gym buddy, but for your inner world.

📍 I move between Tauranga and Mangakino, and I’m happy to travel.